I recently started reading Robert Self’s book All in the Family, The Realignment of American Democracy Since the 1960’s. In this book, Self traces how breadwinner liberalism, the notion that the government should protect and expand rights for the nuclear family, shifted to breadwinner conservatism where the expansion of civil rights challenged social norms and thus threatened social order. As a result of this perceived threat, American politics, in its entirety, shifted from center-left to center-right. This shift is pivotal to understanding politics today.
Both breadwinner liberalism and breadwinner conservatism center on the idea of the sacred nuclear family. Whether or not the nuclear family actually exists is besides the point. Regardless of its actual existence, the nuclear family is an American mythology based on the assumption that the male breadwinner, in establishing his role as the the leader of his family, fulfills his ultimate purpose in becoming the object of modern democracy. When he secures this position, he is powerful.
Changing notions of what gender and sexuality meant threatened the universal aspiration to be part of the nuclear family. If more people didn’t want to be apart of the nuclear family, what would happen to it? Conservatives called it a crisis– the nuclear family was under attack. They were able to weaponize this mythology, and conflate it with losing the bread winner’s political power. Thus, Lyndon B. Johnson created the Great Society. As time progressed, more conservative presidents created more programs, narrowing the definition of the nuclear family, protecting it even harder. Reactions to social change are exceedingly common. This can be seen through Jim Crow laws after the abolishment of slavery, through Donald Trump’s presidential victory after Obama’s two terms. What seems to be common around these reactions is the perceived threat of a new social order, of being forced to relinquish long-held power.
When I was thinking about the nuclear family, I began to think about the woman’s role in it. I thought about her role as caretaker, nurturer, homemaker, child bearer. I thought about all the ways that identity has socialized and groomed our society; I started to think about abortion. Suddenly, I had an “aha” moment. Maybe the reason abortion is so scary to some is because it goes counter to the assumptions of the nuclear family, the assumption that women are selfless mothers. In this way, abortion is the direct rejection of the nuclear family, women may not want to be a selfless mother, calling social norms into question in a very profound way. When women “reject” the mythology of the nuclear family in this way, they threaten the position of power the nuclear family holds in the political arena, garnering narrower and narrower restrictions and definitions. This is fascinating in the wake of current abortion debates.